Helen Adrienne has been in practice since 1979, helping people on the tough road of infertility. As a licensed clinical social worker and someone who has worked in hypnotherapy and mind/body interventions for almost 40 years, she has been committed to serving this community with better support and resources.
Through her many years in practice, the common thread she’s seen in people with infertility is the spike of anxiety that they inevitably experience. She says that this response is totally normal.
In her words, “You’re born and as you grow up, you realize there are your teen years, your reproductive years, growing older and death. Somehow, the only one that seems out of the range for you (in this natural order of things) is reproduction. So, for most people, it’s a blow to the psychic expectation of how life is supposed to go…”
Something that she shares with her clients, and those who attend her Tuesday night support group in New York City, is a journaling exercise she calls, “Labeling for Liberation” or “Knowledge is Power.” (Included below.)
Journaling can help you circle around and land on the truth.Ultimately, Helen knows that journaling can not only be cathartic for people processing a challenge, but it can help them ‘circle around and land on the truth’ with feelings that may not be consciously realized. And, releasing these feelings may be a path to helping someone achieve a state of neutrality. Ultimately, she says, this state of neutrality will be good for one’s mind, body and spirit.
Helen Adrienne has shared a simple exercise with our audience at pregnantish, in the hopes that it can help our readers better understand, release and capture their feelings about infertility.
So, open your PC, phone or a journal, and consider answering these questions. (Editors note: without editing too much or judging yourself!)
Knowledge is Power
1. Sum up your medical/physical history. How long are you at this challenge? Any miscarriages or ectopics?
2. Were there any unusual twists or turns?
3. Sum up the emotional impact on you.
4. What was the impact on your relationship(s)?
5. Track your capacity to cope over time.
6. What was the biggest insult from a. Friends? b. Family? c. Doctor? d. Therapist/Counsellor?
7. Is there a “punch line” that sums up the experience? (Something short that could be a bumper sticker, for instance.)
If you’re not up for answering these specific questions, simply opening a page and allowing yourself to get out your feelings, without any particular structure, can be a release.
For more on Helen Adrienne, visit www.mind-body-unity.com.
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