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When Monica Davis first shared her IVF journey, she thought it would end the way many people imagine it does—with a pregnancy announcement. Instead, she’s traveled a fertility journey she never expected.
After four rounds of IVF, dozens of embryos, and months of emotional and physical strain, the Love Is Blind alum is opening up on pregnantish about what infertility actually looks like behind the scenes, and why she’s choosing to step back, reset, and still believe in her future as a mom.
(Monica shares even more about her journey—including details she hasn’t spoken about publicly—on the latest episode of the pregnantish podcast. Listen here or watch on YouTube.)
“I Thought I Knew What IVF Looked Like”
Like many women, Monica entered the IVF process feeling somewhat informed.
“I thought I knew a lot….” she says. But nothing prepared her for the reality.
Over the course of eight months, Monica went through four back-to-back IVF cycles.
The early numbers gave her hope:
- 90 eggs retrieved
- 65 mature
- 29 embryos
“You think, ‘Okay, this is going to work,’” she says.
But anyone who has gone through the process knows all too well about the unexpected twists and turns.
“We just struggled to get to the blastocyst stage,” she explains. “I didn’t even know that was something that could happen.”
After multiple cycles, only one embryo made it through genetic testing.
They call this embryo “Golden.”
The Call She Never Expected
For Monica, one of the most shocking moments wasn’t physical, it was emotional.
“Getting 30+ eggs and then getting a call that none made it to the next stage… I didn’t know that was possible,” she says.
It’s a lesser-discussed reality of IVF and one that leaves many patients blindsided.
“You think the hard part is the transfer or a miscarriage,” she adds. “But there are so many steps before that where things can stop.”
When Sharing Becomes Your Identity
Monica began documenting her journey on social media, posting videos of injections, appointments, and the emotional highs and lows.
At first, it felt natural.
“I thought I’d share one video, and then I’d be pregnant,” she says.
But as cycles failed, her story evolved, and so did her audience. What she didn’t expect was how deeply it would become part of her identity.
“It became my life. It became what people knew me for,” she says. “People would come up to me and say, ‘We know you have an appointment Monday—we’re thinking of you.’”
The support was powerful and at times, also overwhelming.
Why She Pressed Pause After Four Rounds
After her fourth IVF cycle, the most difficult one yet, Monica and her partner Zac made a decision to pause.
“I was like, I need a break,” she says. “I want to go to the gym and not think about doctor calls. I want to feel like myself again.”
Now, she and her partner are taking time to travel, reconnect, and step outside the constant cycle of treatment.
Their one embryo—Golden—remains frozen.
“One last thought Monica Wants Others to Know: I Wish I Had Frozen My Eggs”
Looking back, Monica is candid about one thing she would have done differently.
“I wish I had frozen my eggs,” she says. She wants to share this detail so that others also listen to their hearts and are proactive about fertility.
In her early 30s, she explored it, but was told by a doctor that she had time. Life moved quickly after that, and by the time she returned to fertility care after being on Love is Blind, things had changed.
“It felt like it happened overnight,” she says.
It’s a message she now shares openly, especially with younger women who may not yet be thinking about fertility.
How She’s Holding Onto Hope
Through connecting with thousands of people in the infertility community, she’s found strength in shared stories and in letting go of rigid timelines.
“This journey has taught me that more than anything,” she says.
Despite a tough journey towards parenthood, Monica is clear about one thing: “I know I’m going to be a mom – and a really good one.”
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Monica’s Love Story Continues
For Monica, this chapter may not look the way she once imagined, but it hasn’t changed what she wants. She’s re-claiming parts of herself and what brings her joy outside of trying for a baby with Zac but clear that she will become a mom one day.
As pregnantish founder and podcast host shared on the episode, “This is still a love story…perhaps the greatest one of all.”
Listen to the full conversation with Monica Davis on the Pregnantish Podcast or watch on YouTube for more of her story, including the emotional moments and decisions she’s still navigating.
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